Learning the art of “ignoring” can be a beneficial tool when dancing the dating dance. Anyone worth knowing, usually knows they’re worth knowing, so if someone who has expressed interest all of a sudden begins to ignore them, ironically it will pique their interest.

Healthy? No. Helpful? Well yes …works every time.

No matter what, even in committed relationships, there is an element of cat and mouse. It’s human nature to want to be sought, and to seek. So when there is no longer a chase, or something to catch …we grow bored and, potentially …wander.

Again…I’m not saying this is perfectly healthy, but I’m giving “the bliss in ignore” some validity for those of you who think being all in ALL the time is cute and comforting for all involved.

If I have someone’s full attention at my whim, that’s too much power being held in my little recovering-princess paws. I shouldn’t expect to hold the keys of life and death to someone’s “whole’ness”. Rather, anyone in my life should have enough self-respect and introspective to maintain their precious time accordingly. Doting can sometimes be daunting for both involved. It should be an occasional treat, not a consistent pursuit of the other persons’ happiness

I guess the long and the short of it is, don’t ignore people out of ignorance, but out of self preservation …and, of course …to increase interest as needed.

So if you find me ignoring you …it’s just because I really really like you

You’re welcome!

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Breaking up always has it’s “he said she said” side of the story and neither are usually the whole truth and nothing but the truth. “Spin” is used in the media all the time, and although it’s frowned upon, it’s the acceptable form of lying. Spin is when you simply spin the truth. White lies if you will. So when breaking up, doctoring the spin so it shines in your favour seems like the right things to do. No?

If we post blame on the other party and don’t acknowledge our own faults in the relationship breakdown, aren’t we just doing ourselves a disservice? I think that people come into our lives in order to help us learn and grow, and if we don’t learn and grow from “X”, we’re going to have “Y” come into our lives as a reattempt to get the point across, followed by “Z’ if we still refuse to heed the lesson.

“You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge” …and if you’re unable to acknowledge what needs changing, perhaps a spin to the doctors (counselors) would behoove you.

Behoove …look it up

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Recent discussion on “type preferences” when it comes to male stars, had my girlfriend and I at complete opposite ends of attraction. The odd thing is, is we have nearly the identical personality (INFJ …look it up…know your own), in yet entirely different preferences in men. Which goes to show that “attraction” is not personality based, but once again this goes to show that, attraction is that undefined “it factor” that is few and far between in the world. Not as much to do with looks as it is to do with presence, chemistry, and over-all appeal.

When compiling my list of my perfect 7 I found it interesting that for the most part these men are more the pensive, introspective sorts. Not loudmouth lengthy talkers …well, with the exception of a couple perhaps for mere “play” purposes .

And the nominees are:

Girl Crush:
Shia Labeouf – it’s official …I’m crushing! But would never actually date him as he’s too short.
Taylor Lautner. Naturally.

Lady Love:
Leonardo Dicarpio …calm cool and collected …need I say more?
Channing Tatum …loved him in Letters to John. Quiet energy …sultry yum!

Crazy Love:
Ryan Reynolds …funny and cute …but I wouldn’t say “hot” …too boy’ish perhaps and lends himself to the more hyper end of the spectrum.
Oh oh…Bradley Cooper!!! …this might be my nearly 10 …although the “charm” is a little thick, and once again, energy overload.

True Love…there can only be one:
Johnny Dep …classic love …another near 10 …coolest energy (fell in love when he did Benny and Joon).

Conclusion? Finding “the one” as it relates to attraction isn’t so much a path, as it is a twilight zone, and what may look good to your friend vs. you, might be Vampires and Werewolves apart.

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