Breakup Breakdown

Tuesday, July 20th, 2010 at 1:05 pm

Sometimes the quickest way to break down the core of someone you’re dating is to break up with them. Not recommended, of course, as a way to “test and see”, people shouldn’t be toyed with in that manner. In addition, keep in mind that, depending on how long you went out with this person, real feelings are at play and: fear, hurt, disappointment, regret etc…can all play into someone acting out due to those negative emotions surfacing. However, if someone TRULY cares about you, and I mean to your core …they will do so within or without the relationship. Seeing you happy should still be important, and even though they may have “lost out” for the time being, most people should have the maturity to weather the storm …because perhaps it’s more of a “waiting out the storm” scenario. The “it’s not you its me” line, on occasion, is true.

However, if the person you broke up with turns a rain storm into a hurricane and adds to the storm instead of calming it in some capacity, it’s likely you won’t want to offer them your umbrella. More likely you’ll choose to allow them to sulk under their own storm cloud and splash in their own pity puddle. People just need to breath. Reflect on what’s important to them. Appreciate what they had with the other person, and respect the core character traits that drew them together. Allow life to unfold as it should and NO MATTER WHAT …if you’re doing the right thing, you WILL be happy.

Perhaps finding the right thing requires the “wrong” thing to step out of your path. Or perhaps the right thing just needs to right some wrongs and make straight their own path before proceeding. Whatever the case may be, maintaining your cool and not breaking down after a breakup is key in ever having the potential to start again.