I recently read an inspired thought that “By simply being yourself, you can help the people in your life see a living example of consciousness.”

I think the common issue though, is that we are not “open” to the world around us and not actively participating in conscious behaviour. Being open consists of various consistencies…

First of all, you have to have a strong understanding of your personal values and be capable of maintaining them. Living consciously is far harder then we think. We often judge people on the things we ourselves struggle most with. So just be sure that if you’re going to preach it, you’re also going to practice it.

Communicating without judgment is also a fine line. We want to be able to share our views without forcing our perspective on anyone. It’s always a bit of a dance and we’ve grown far too passive in our conversations for fear of insulting anyone. That’s why LIVING what you say is often the more persuasive evidence that you say and live what you mean. “Actions speak louder than words” …I’m a MASSIVE advocate of this overused and underutilized quote.

The concept of “paying it forward” can often prompt others to be their best selves and respond likewise. We often react much more strongly to negative behaviour than respond actively to positive behaviour. Why is that? Lazy consciousness I suppose.

The key in teaching others how to treat you is by treating them how you want to be treated. Elementary one would think, but it’s shocking how many people expect a certain level of respect before they are even willing to offer it. “Give and you shall receive” applies well here.

Open your home to others. Why is it so rare that we invite others to socialize in our “sacred space”? I’m lucky to have a clubhouse in my condo, so it’s the happy medium to having people over, without stuffing them into a small space. I truly enjoy visiting with others, but unfortunately find that we’ve become a community who creates beautiful homes, but close the doors to anyone who isn’t part of our immediate circle of “comfort level friends”.

Be informed. Knowing WHY your passionate about WHAT your passionate about helps to educate others on the importance you place on that thing or idea. Many claim to be or do something important to them, but surprisingly few know why.

Growth is never comfortable, whether its physical growth, personal growth or spiritual growth. However, how ridiculous would it be if we all stayed physical infants? It’s equally as ridiculous if we remain as such in any form of life. So why not, instead of sputtering through life, give your external life a growth spurt? …I dare you ☺

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Some people are so great at being open vessels. They exude positive energy and create a desire in you to want to be with them. I think we ALL have this ability if we use each interaction to be the BEST, most powerful version of ourselves. Often we are too lazy, selfish, or scared to put our best out there. “It’s too much work”. “Why should I care about them”. “What if my good isn’t good enough”? All subconscious thoughts I’m sure we have thought from time to time.

But what if we consciously chose to give each day our best, and each interaction our full attention. Which would mean of course turning off our computers and our phones and our tv’s. Of course we have to work and stay on top of life, but I think society today is CONSUMED with their distractions and not embracing the NOW …and therefore are creating our own hell of exclusion. Our children are getting ignored, our friends are being overlooked, our careers are getting our second best. Careers aside I think it’s the humans in life which should be paid the most attention …and that requires human interaction.

This is simply a note to self because I’ll be the first one to stand up and admit I’m the worst offender of this tuned out mentality.

The devil isn’t the scary dude with horns lurking in the inferno of hell …he’s the technology we’ve all embraced to help us “grow”, but really it’s been an active participant in our distractions and destruction from life …our slow decent into hell if you will. Because after all …what is hell …hell is a place where love does not exist. What is love? An ACTION word, PRESENT participation …actively participating in the lives of the people who are said to be loved to the BEST of your ability.

Supervised neglect is still neglect. Inactive love is not love …it’s indifference – a fate worse then hate.

My grandma wants to hear my voice, she wants to see a hand written letter, she wants to hug her grandson. Those who came before the age of technology have not forgotten what it feels like to RECEIVE love.

Multi-tasking isn’t a skill …it’s the inability to concentrate fully on a specific task, and has been said to be LESS affective when you multi-task.

It’s my mission to make my actions reflect my true desires. For my friends and family to FEEL my love, not just read about it via text or email.

Being my best self is about being present …I guess that’s why they call a present a present …time is the ultimate gift ☺

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So many of us are taught to accept what we are given and not dream for anything more. Granted there are also dreamers who can’t accept what they are given. However, having the ability to dream BEYOND the sometimes drudgery of life, is such an important part of being a survivor …and more than that – a “thriver”. I give my mom props for teaching me by example how to rise above a situation and create your own reality. I think not being given everything you want as a child sets the tone for you as an adult …perhaps making you more appreciative of what you do have? Gratitude is the first step to achieving …not only “things” but incite, knowledge, wisdom. Appreciating what one has allows them to be open and ready for more.

They say that most people who fall into money, such as winning the lottery, often lose it all in one capacity or the other in a short period of time. I would think the same goes for most things in life. If you’re handed something before you’re ready for it, you can’t or won’t appreciate it, and likely won’t retain it.

Why then do some of us experience continual hiccups in life? Prosperity and then poverty. Windfalls and then withholds. A bounty of great friends and then a meager group of less-involved friends?

I know that there’s always a lesson to learn in the give and take of life, but when you feel as though you’ve already learned the lesson being presented to you it can be frustrating. But ahh …perhaps then the lesson is patience, gratitude, humility. See …always a lesson!

Grace under pressure. This is the test in life throughout. And even though some peoples’ “ride” through life might seem easier, don’t be blinded by mere site. If they have monetary help at their disposal, this always comes with a plausible fear or exhausting drive to maintain it. If they have family surrounding them to help out in whatever capacity, this also may come with meddling and an overwhelming sense of obligation. If they have a consistent “dream career” without any bumps in that road, this might end in devastation after a 20 year career ends and that person has not been able to meld with the ever changing society and it’s demand to be adaptable, and their dream ends.

A final blow can be a lot more damaging than occasional yet seemingly consistent blows. So count your blessings and don’t dismiss them when “disaster” arises. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again …success is moving from failure to failure without any loss of enthusiasm.

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