Yeah Vancouver…if you’re reading this all eyes are on you you insatiable date’ables. It doesn’t matter if you were bred here or breed here …this is the Mecca for people who date without end. The city gates should have a warning sign which reads: “WARNING: daters at play …speed limits don’t matter, you’ll never get out with an actual life partner”. Now of course that’s entirely too long of a sign and not overly welcoming …perhaps we could shorten it to simply read: “Welcome to Vancouver – you’re f*cked”.

All joking aside, I’m not joking. I have now lived in this shrinking mass of potential for 11 years, and 95% of the people I know are still single, or have settled for an unhappily ever after union of wedded ew.

Jaded? No. Bitter? Absolutely not. Hell I still consider it fun to date. I’ve got potential’itice. There’s nothing I love more than a healthy helping of potential served up on a multi-dating platter. But the fact remains; Vancouver is here to serve the daters …not the haters or the waiters (people who wait you out hoping to land an actual long-standing relationship). If you wanna enjoy everything this city has to offer …expect to enjoy everyone who’s in it also. It’s a buffet of singles served with a side of perpetual daters and the kitchen is open 24/7.

Perhaps this reads as the gateway to hell for some, and for others it’s potentially the pearly gates of their happy place. Either way it is what it is …and what it is is a city of insatiable date’ables.

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Sometimes the quickest way to break down the core of someone you’re dating is to break up with them. Not recommended, of course, as a way to “test and see”, people shouldn’t be toyed with in that manner. In addition, keep in mind that, depending on how long you went out with this person, real feelings are at play and: fear, hurt, disappointment, regret etc…can all play into someone acting out due to those negative emotions surfacing. However, if someone TRULY cares about you, and I mean to your core …they will do so within or without the relationship. Seeing you happy should still be important, and even though they may have “lost out” for the time being, most people should have the maturity to weather the storm …because perhaps it’s more of a “waiting out the storm” scenario. The “it’s not you its me” line, on occasion, is true.

However, if the person you broke up with turns a rain storm into a hurricane and adds to the storm instead of calming it in some capacity, it’s likely you won’t want to offer them your umbrella. More likely you’ll choose to allow them to sulk under their own storm cloud and splash in their own pity puddle. People just need to breath. Reflect on what’s important to them. Appreciate what they had with the other person, and respect the core character traits that drew them together. Allow life to unfold as it should and NO MATTER WHAT …if you’re doing the right thing, you WILL be happy.

Perhaps finding the right thing requires the “wrong” thing to step out of your path. Or perhaps the right thing just needs to right some wrongs and make straight their own path before proceeding. Whatever the case may be, maintaining your cool and not breaking down after a breakup is key in ever having the potential to start again.

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Most “mature” relationships tend to get complicated all too quickly. Heading into your late-twenties and beyond, people simply have more baggage, criteria, expectations, lists and agendas …which leaves no room for the easy ride simplicity -and dare I say- “ignorance” usually offers. Knowledge lends itself to a heightened awareness which can sometimes blow because it’s like you ruin your own surprise party simply because not a lot can get past you. Ignorance is bliss that’s for damn sure.

Returning from whence you came can, on occasion, be your wisest choice of action. The innocence of youth can bring with it a fun filled dating experience. Let’s face it, when serious issues arise too quickly it puts a damper on the enjoyment factor of dating. Granted you want to be on the same page, heading in the same direction, but I think far too often people try to attack serious topics before they’ve had a chance to enjoy the person instead of delving straight into the package (so to speak).

Enduring expectations is something which is more likely to happen after two people have invested enough time to care. Presenting your expectations prematurely will most definitely take all the fun out of the getting-to-know-you process. Ease up and try the easy route to happy …you might be surprised at how returning to simplicity just may be the secret to relationship success.

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