I find there are many “types” of women out there, but when it comes to the good ones, the real keepers… they package themselves far too easily into the best friend mold. They want everyone to find love, and often overlook their own future findings in order to make a match for friends, relatives, and all other single humans they may encounter.

So this year, why don’t you take your “best friend making self” and transform “you” into “she”…the IT woman… the leading lady. This isn’t an undertaking, it’s an OVERtaking. Hold yourself to a new standard, create new energy, command (don’t demand) respect. Take the lead in your own personal life. Hop in the drivers seat and LEAD by example.

Capish?

*HUGZ* and big success in 2010!

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Remember when you were a kid (ladies) and the boys would pull your hair, gross you out by picking their nose and show you the results, or call you various “I know you are but what am I” kind of names? Ah yes….true love sandbox style.

Then you grow up, and you hope that these slimy, smelly, name calling boys would have too, only to discover that the sandbox is now just a cleaner, larger, corporate version. Separating the boys from the men is sometimes more about getting the boy OUT of the man.

Hair pulling is a pleasure in some settings (wink wink nudge nudge)…, but attempting to get someone’s attention, or show them you’re interested with boyish antics is a bad idea if the person your pursuing has any level of maturity.

So come on boys…let’s be men here…even gentlemen perhaps. Be polite. No name calling. No childish tantrums for ridiculous reasons. Clean up after yourself. Have a career you’re proud of, and take charge (not to be confused with being controlling)!

The “balls” are in your court…game on!

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Christmas …a time to reflect on who and what is important….and rightfully so Taking stock of what matters most to you is paramount in attracting exactly what you want.

I had a conversation with a friend today about relationship deal breakers. He was entertaining the thought of moving further into a relationship, only to find out the person he was pursuing did not want to have more children. He then had to decide if this would alter his life in a negative way, or if it could be an allowable exception to the relationship without causing too much personal and/or lifestyle damage.

I told him, what he has to really ask himself is what his deal breakers are. Deal breakers are normally made up of things which alter the CORE of who you are and the direction your convictions are most fulfilled. If a deal breaker is presented, and you think it will cause you to live less of a life, or worse – make you less of a person…by no means should you move forward with this.

I was in a relationship for 3 years and was entirely in love with that person, and had to recognize the deal breaker which presented itself. It would have ENTIRELY altered my life and the children we would have had, so as much as it KILLED me (and him) at the time, it was a deal breaker which would not have made for a harmonious union. I would have had to become less of a person, and deny my convictions, and this was not a healthy option.

I think a lot of people choose to accept things which require them to change their core. Which, consequently, makes them become unhappy, and experience many unfortunate battles within their relationship because of it. Instead of the alternative, which is to be alone …often just for a time and not for the perceived “eternity”.

For most, the very thought of pursuing life solo sends them reeling and they stay, die a little inside…and forever dwell. Please, for the love of YOU…know your value, boundaries, convictions and deal breakers. Live healthy, love fully! Thank you

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