As an independent woman I have little “technical” need for a man, and have considered the ones who have come into my life to be a bonus and not a necessity. I think the problem women run into, however, when they treat men as a side dish and not a main course, is the fact that men WANT to be needed. This isn’t to say they want a gold digger who is into them for what they can give a woman, but rather they need to feel like a useful resource in your life. They are wired to be problem solvers and “bring home the bacon” kind of humans who are designed to provide and protect their ladies.

We as women have to understand that even though we’re entirely capable to provide for ourselves and complete our own happiness…that maybe, just maybe we can let go of our structured “system” just a bit in order to allow the men to be “man”.

If we want to play the blame game then lets attack society. Society has created weak men, and overpowering women. Many boys today come from homes where they were raised by a single mom, and unfortunately often have few great men to look up to. They have “super moms”, but no “super heros”. And girls are being taught to “suck it up buttercup” and be more masculine in a mans world in order to achieve what they have/can.

Here’s a thought. Maybe if we just learn to appreciate our differences, and respect how men and women compliment one another in the appropriate setting, and give one another the right to be manly men and feminine women, perhaps we would discover that the system wasn’t broken after all.

Just a thought.

Signed.
Peanut Gallery.

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No matter how we look at it, enhance it, extend it or change it…at the end of life, there is still death. Yes, if you haven’t heard – this is the cold hard truth. Surprise!

Life for a lot of singles is about participating in a string of bad dates, ensuring your closet is full of costly labels in order to impress those bad dates, and partaking in friendships which are more about the VIP and “what can you do for me” than the kind which resound into ever-after.

Now that’s a gross generalization and I’m sure most are more fulfilling than that glib portrayal of single life…but in ones quest to find love, they often will experience the above to some extent.

How then can we live successfully single lives and not be subject to the standard rejected, dejected, bitterly infected bunch that accumulate in the single world?

One word…CARE!

Yup. That’s it. If you can go on a date and simply care about the other human being sitting across from you, you’ll end the date a success. This is not to say you will end up TOGETHER, but you will pass the time appreciating another humans’ experiences, interests, beliefs and opinions, instead of enduring them and internally rolling your eyes at your disgust for the way they chew, fidget, or pronounce their “P’s and Q’s”.

This goes for encounters of any kind. We get so caught up in what others are thinking about US, or concerning ourselves with belittling them for no real reason other then our own insecurities, that we fail to appreciate what they have to offer us in this journey of life-slash-death.

Maybe if we look at the “journey to death” in a more positive light, and think of it as being our last chance to do anything, or talk to anyone, or experience everything…we will then change our journey of existence, functionality and frustrations, and turn them into a life full of final moments, lasting memories and conclusive meaning….simply by what? Caring ☺

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In order to catch any good prey you need yourself some good bait. Ideally the good bait should simply be comprised of the depths of your character, the pulled together person which is you and the inner hotty which is in everyone. Because let me tell you, there is nothing worse then the ol’ “bait and switch” action. Someone who pretends to be this paramount person, but ends up being the devils cousin “Flamer”.

Then there are those who wait with baited breath. Always waiting, hoping, longing …but never actually making a move. Women are notorious for this, and ladies I must encourage you…MAKE A MOVE! Don’t be needy and pathetic (goes for men too), but by all means take the initiative to see if the guy across the bar is into you. Send him a drink…it’ll cost you Monday’s latte, but might buy you a new potential bf.

Then there’s jail bait…yeah…leave those bad boys alone

Take stock of your bait though…make sure you’re putting out the appropriate bait for your optimal catch.

Happy Hunting!

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