Remember when you were 13 and having a crush was the most exhilarating thing life could offer? It was such innocent bliss and you spent your days thinking of ways to hit on that person, or how to make yourself stand out among the crowd so you were the one they wanted “for all time”. Ahh…so sweet ☺

Then you turned 21 and all of a sudden real life takes hold and you have no time for reflection or creative flair, instead you sift through online profiles and send a quick text with coordinates of where to meet. You grab a short coffee and then deduce your pending future together. And repeat.

Bor-effing-ing!

Come on people…we can do better than that! This is our LIVES we’re talking about and we should be living them to the full extent! We say we have no time for this that and the other, but that’s the ONLY thing we have…time…it’s a 80 year gift – give or take a decade or two.

If we’re always waiting for the work day to be over so we can watch our favourite tv show, or wishing for yesterday when life was less complicated – then we’re missing the MOMENT…you know, that little space-in-time when life actually happens.

Don’t miss the moment because you’re too busy waiting for the memories…they’re already happening in a sequence of events known as life. You can either live it, or endure it.

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I think it’s very important to be best friends with your main squeeze…but I also think a friendship with the opposite sex can surpassed the potential phase if it’s carried on for too long without pursuing that option.

I’ve often heard that men and women can’t maintain a platonic friendship as eventually it will always lead to sex. However, I believe the lover phase can also pass you by if you miss the moment. I’ve been friends with one of my guy pals for 10+ years now, and we have each others’ checklists covered…in yet, we’re “merely” friends. Granted this “perfectly packaged package” for one another has grown and transpired with age and time.

How then do you build a friendship without losing a potential lover?

If your friend and sexual opposite is the mirror image of what you want in a partner, than use that as evidence that they exists, and also as a way of attracting that very same person in your life who has the potential to be both lover AND friend.

A lot of male/female relationships can definitely turn sibling-esque, so instead of trying to force it to be something it simply can’t be…again, appreciate the gift of it being a reflection of what you want to find. The universe has a way of producing that which you desire most. Being around someone who fits that mold allows the universe to better hone in on your “beyond friend” and perfect fit.

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So I spent the weekend in Calgary checkin’ out the “other competition” …and guess what I found out? The need for “love” is EVERYWHERE. Surprise!

Calgary is known for it’s friendly folk and laid back scene, which I can definitely attest to. However, one thing the single gals did mention was the fact that there were not enough good guys to go around (surprise again!), and/or it was hard to find that right place to meet. These were hot, educated, successful, normal, fun ladies!

Meanwhile, my single and highly eligible male friend, whom I used as my tour guide, is also looking. That’s when it happened. The “wing-woman appeal” (www.designedfordating.com/whats-in-your-package). As I perched myself at the edge of the bar enjoying an intimate crowd of Michael Jackson birthday goers, at the well-known Chicago Chophouse, I had a young woman approach me and start chatting. Upon exchanging names I handed her my card to further explain who I was and what I did.

Well that got the ball rolling as she exclaimed it was fate we met and that she was actively, but unproductively looking for “Mr. Right”. I just so happened to have Mr. Right standing directly beside me and thus began the intro!

I talked him up, while maintaining his true-self and character and defusing his first feeble attempt to be suave. Guys have a tendency to oversell, so when he walked away and she and I continued to chat, I was able to give her further history and insight into him and lay his cards straight.

By the end of the night…well, let’s just say – what happens in cow town stays in cow town

And THAT, my friends…is how the “wing-woman” appeal works!

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